My husband Sheldon, an accomplished man in both business and life, has the best work ethic of anyone I've ever met. What's his secret? He has a self imposed work system which he (tongue in cheek) refers to as "torture and reward."
Truth be told, he has a greater willingness for hard work and delayed gratification (the "torture" phase) than most people. And that in itself could be its own article and is well worth some deep contemplation. He's also unwilling to endure torture if there is no sufficient reward in sight. This is the reason he quit the hourly wage work force early on, and started working for himself as soon as he could figure out a path to do so. These are both great things to contemplate, but may not be for everybody.
But there is a universal piece, one that any of us can benefit from, which is this. Sheldon understands and consistently applies these 5 golden rules of how to use rewards. These are:
- Don't enjoy the reward too early
- Time big rewards strategically
- Do enjoy rewards!
- There's a time and a place for everything
- Use positive self talk (all the time)
Don't enjoy the reward too early, means, you don't kick back and take a break first thing in the morning before you've gotten anything done. It means you apply yourself, you do the work, and then you enjoy an (appropriately scaled) reward.
It also means you look at the rewards you would like to have in your life, including--actually, especially!--whatever you might already be thinking to do for yourself, and you consider timing them strategically to increase your motivation. For instance, consider saving the expensive purchase of that Nice New Thing you're thinking to buy, for after the successful completion of the thing you are working on, or some milestone point. Breaking up your big jobs into smaller milestones is a basic and foundational motivation piece, which I hope you are already doing.
What would it look like to map out some upcoming rewards for yourself around your accomplishments? What could you give yourself, when? Sometimes the small ones are fun, and can become a bit of a game. I used to watch a certain TV show only when I was working out on the elliptical machine. If I wanted to see the next episode, I had to get on the machine! Sheldon is in the habit of unloading the dishwasher in the morning, while the water for his coffee comes to a boil. It's a fast job, it fills the time he'd just be waiting, and he gets to check off an accomplishment before he's even sat down to his coffee.
Do enjoy rewards!, means that, at the end of the day, you take an hour or two to read or do something else you enjoy, in a clean and intentional atmosphere (maybe light some candles, put on some music to enhance your enjoyment). Or whatever floats your boat! It means at the end of the week, you take a day to devote to something you enjoy--a reward for your hard work of the week.
If you find yourself working into the wee hours of the night, every night, without a rest, you are missing the reward of your day's work, and your motivation will suffer. Ditto the end of the week.
Taking stock of and celebrating what you have accomplished-- at the end of the day, at the end of the week, and before a vacation period-- is an important and necessary reward. Resting and enjoying your accomplishment is really how we bring the accomplishment to completion. If we are skipping this, then we are not actually completing the accomplishment. Praise where praise is due--for yourself, for others--and taking a well earned rest (appropriately portioned for the phase of work) goes a long way toward absorbing a reward properly, and, by doing so, preparing yourself to enter the next phase of work.
The more you start to look at phases of work and rest as a rhythm and a system, the more you realize that, indeed, there's a time and a place for everything. Hard work in the morning, break for lunch, maybe even a short siesta if you need it to make the most of the afternoon; another cycle of work, ending with rest and enjoyment in the evening. Working in complete cycles like this, you can get more than one cycle of hard work out of yourself in the day.
Which time of the day will you rest and enjoy? Which day of the week? Which week, or two!, of each season will be devoted to enjoyment and rejuvenating? Plan to pay yourself not just with monetary rewards, but the rewards of healthy rhythms, and a life well lived.
Positive self talk. Last but not least, this is a constantly available and accessible reward that you can apply liberally, with yourself and others. It's one reward that you can give as early and as often as you like, so it doesn't follow the other rules, except for the Do Enjoy It rule.
Beginning your week having fully appreciated all you did the previous week, you are well set up to feel good about what you will be able to accomplish this coming week. "I sure did a lot last week! (Nix the critical voice that will insist you could have done more.) I did this, and that, and that. Good job, me!" It's easy to go from that, to "I can do anything I put my mind to this week. What do I want to accomplish?" Follow a job with credit where credit is due, even for the small things. "I did that thing I said I would do this morning!!" And if you have a supportive ear, go ahead and support each other with good listening and appreciation. Telling each other about your accomplishments, however humble, and praising each other's efforts, is a magic formula for a great work environment that stays motivating for all.
While positive self talk sounds rather obvious, many people find it actually quite hard to do, and I can relate. My own social programming was to be modest, to the degree that I used to tease Sheldon for what seemed to me to be exaggerated bragging about the smallest accomplishments. But after twenty years in relationship, I cannot deny that what he does, works! He knows how to motivate himself! And more and more, I am taking a page out of his motivation book.
By incorporating positive self talk, well timed rest, enjoyment, and strategic rewards, I find I have a much easier time motivating myself, enjoying my accomplishments, and getting myself psyched and feeling confident to take on the next thing. Try them, and let me know how they work!