One of the most satisfying things I do for my clients is help them to get clear on what they are really wanting and needing, and support them in finding healthy ways of expressing these needs to their loved ones. I have a knack for getting to the heart of what matters to create a harmonious life at home.
As a partner or as a parent, there is a continual unfolding process of meeting your own evolving needs while respecting the evolving needs of another. Often we are not fully conscious of our own unmet needs or desires, or have never had them validated by another. As a result, rather than calmly and respectfully asking for what we need, we express ourselves only while in a state of painful reactivity to our unmet needs, using frustrated and angry language. Our needs don't go away; one way or another they will be expressed! Expressing them in a tragic way that rejects the people we love instead of instructing them on our needs, is not fair to our loved ones, nor to ourselves. There is a better way, and it starts with becoming conscious of your needs, and having them validated by someone who understands.
My relationship and parenting work is a hybrid of coaching and consulting, as I am listening for and helping clients to identify their unmet needs, while also sharing relevant models and resources to strengthen and create a framework for long term healthy communication.